MY LIFE partner...
I have been given a life by God. He has given it to me for my soul to learn and grow through life's journey. I should realise and cherish my growth. I have been given this life to observe, accept and learn from the instances which form the path through which I am growing. To experience earthly, as well as spiritual bliss.
Now, 21 years of my life has gone by. A long way with many twists and turns have shaped the person I am today. All of a sudden, if I start concentrating only on a person and his happiness and our intimacy, what happens to my precious life?? If I devote all my energy into understanding him and his whole life, I do things with the single intention of making him happy, what happens to me??
My growth comes to a standstill. My life becomes stagnated, and it slowly begins to stink (I like the pun ;D). The beautiful flower of growth in me eventually withers away as I no longer pay attention to it.
"You are my life", "My life is yours", "Our lives are not two, but one"...all these may sound very romantic. But these are misleading notions which will only end up suffocating a relationship. Expectations, emotional dependency etc. come up in the relationship which will finally lead only to frustration.
Therefore, one's lover should not become one's life itself, but ones life companion. Our lives should go separately, rather grow separately. After all, we are two separate spiritual beings. In life's journey, he is my companion and I am his. When I need to unburden or share, I can do so with him. But I should try not to expect anything back from him while doing so. He is a witness to my life, a person to remind me that my life is not going unnoticed.
We shouldn't infringe into each others space or freedom. Simply give company to one another and watch each other, as well as ourselves, grow. Grow in terms of earthly aspects (professional, social and physical), as well as spiritual growth. We should let our rivers of life flow and enjoy the joys as well as the turbulences. In such a scenario, love too would want to accompany the both of us in our journey. Otherwise, matters get too stuffy for love to blossom. Love gets suffocated and frustration takes its place.
"Why can't you simply understand me?", is yet another very common line in a relationship. Even after all the self-introspection and observation that I do in my life, I still cannot precisely predict my behavior in the next few hours, neither can I for sure understand why I behaved in a certain way a few hours ago. So if I myself cannot understand my reactions at different situations, how can I expect another person to accomplish this?? Every individual is an ever-changing unpredictable being by nature. This fact needs to be frequently reminded of and accepted.
So live one's life, love one's life, cherish it and cherish your growth.
Now, 21 years of my life has gone by. A long way with many twists and turns have shaped the person I am today. All of a sudden, if I start concentrating only on a person and his happiness and our intimacy, what happens to my precious life?? If I devote all my energy into understanding him and his whole life, I do things with the single intention of making him happy, what happens to me??
My growth comes to a standstill. My life becomes stagnated, and it slowly begins to stink (I like the pun ;D). The beautiful flower of growth in me eventually withers away as I no longer pay attention to it.
"You are my life", "My life is yours", "Our lives are not two, but one"...all these may sound very romantic. But these are misleading notions which will only end up suffocating a relationship. Expectations, emotional dependency etc. come up in the relationship which will finally lead only to frustration.
Therefore, one's lover should not become one's life itself, but ones life companion. Our lives should go separately, rather grow separately. After all, we are two separate spiritual beings. In life's journey, he is my companion and I am his. When I need to unburden or share, I can do so with him. But I should try not to expect anything back from him while doing so. He is a witness to my life, a person to remind me that my life is not going unnoticed.
We shouldn't infringe into each others space or freedom. Simply give company to one another and watch each other, as well as ourselves, grow. Grow in terms of earthly aspects (professional, social and physical), as well as spiritual growth. We should let our rivers of life flow and enjoy the joys as well as the turbulences. In such a scenario, love too would want to accompany the both of us in our journey. Otherwise, matters get too stuffy for love to blossom. Love gets suffocated and frustration takes its place.
"Why can't you simply understand me?", is yet another very common line in a relationship. Even after all the self-introspection and observation that I do in my life, I still cannot precisely predict my behavior in the next few hours, neither can I for sure understand why I behaved in a certain way a few hours ago. So if I myself cannot understand my reactions at different situations, how can I expect another person to accomplish this?? Every individual is an ever-changing unpredictable being by nature. This fact needs to be frequently reminded of and accepted.
So live one's life, love one's life, cherish it and cherish your growth.
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